Every Rhino has a full closet (imaginarily speaking) of optional daily get-ups, ways to appear for the world’s (and our own) assessment. When We see ourselves as Victims, We dress and think and act like Victims, and not surprisingly, We are treated as Victims.
This process can develop into a Lifestyle. No Rhino Seal of Approval is forthcoming. Sorry.
(Obviously, there are times when things are truly trying, which is not what We are talking about.)