Not so oddly, R Tots have no idea how Big We are. We are clear that We are not as Big as Mom. We are regularly told that ‘when We grow up’ We’ll be more in command of matters and ourselves.

We may age, but inside, We have misgivings. Do We matter, or did We flunk Maturation? Are We actually as clueless as We were back when? That suspicion is both a sign of intelligence, but also of self-doubt.

Even as R Parents, We often feel We will be proven ineffectual. So generation after generation is faking Adulthood, doing our best, but…?